All posts by Ravi Tangri

The biggest barrier to mindfulness – and how to get past it – Nugget Podcast

The biggest barrier to mindfulness is the non-stop head chatter that you can get lost in. Imagine if you could shut that off – that’s exactly what this week’s meh2yeah Nugget Show is about – a simple way to quiet your head chatter.

Empowerment Demystified – meh2YEAH Pro-File Podcast

Too many people feel disempowered, and many leaders aren’t sure how to make empowerment work. In this week’s “meh” to YEAH! Pro-File Show, I take a fresh look at empowerment from a radically new direction to uncover practical ways you can actually empower yourself and others.

There are so many insights from my amazing guests, Trena Graham and Nicole LeBlanc- Gallant in this show. You ladies are incredible! Enjoy the show!

What legacy do you want to leave behind?

Father’s Day makes me think of the gifts my father has left me, and of what I, in turn, am leaving to my son and stepsons.  Part of that is my time with them – so much more is all I do in my life and what I will leave behind.

Too often you get caught up in the busyness of life, constantly trying to juggle more than you can handle, running from one deadline to another.  In that maelstrom, it’s easy to lose track of why you do all you do and the deeper patterns.  At best, life becomes stressful exhaustion. At worst, days pass by as “meh”.

Perhaps that’s the gift of days like this.  They can give you a moment to breathe, to look at the big picture and think about what is the legacy you want to leave behind?  How is it you want to be remembered?  What would allow you to look back on your life and see more days of “YEAH!” and fewer days of “meh”?

If you can make the time to really think about that, how would it change what you do?  How would it impact the importance of all those deadlines?  What else might be possible?

It’s not just about spending more quality time with family and friends.  It’s about why you’re here.  What’s the legacy you want to leave behind, and what can you do today, tomorrow, this week to start?  What can you drop to make time?  What do you need to start doing?  What other choices are possible?

Nugget Podcast – Prioritizing Life and Work

We all want to have a meaningful, productive life, but we’re barraged with demands from different directions. Today’s meh2YEAH Nugget gives you a simple tool to prioritize what you focus on right now.

Meh2YEAH Pro-File Podcast – Lisa Drader-Murphy

What does it take to find your passion and follow it? And how do you uncover opportunities in a highly competitive field? Discover how Lisa Drader-Murphy charted her course in today’s From “meh” to YEAH! Pro-File.

How 3 letters can transform a purpose statement

Liquid filled lensatic compass

Liquid filled lensatic compass (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Purpose is the raison d’etre for you as an individual, or for your organization.  It’s your true north.

It needs to be stated in simple, plain English in a way that people can connect to and be excited about.  And there are 3 letters that can elevate them to even greater power.

Let’s start with organizational shared purpose – the same principle applies to personal and shared purpose.  In yesterday’s post, I quoted this HBR article that said that corporate shared purpose exists “to inspire your staff to do good work for you, find a way to express the organization’s impact on the lives of customers, clients, students, patients — whomever you’re trying to serve. Make them feel it.”

So what are some actual examples?

Here is ING‘s purpose: “Empowering people to stay a step ahead in life and in business”

And Southwest Airline‘s: “To connect People to what’s important in their lives through friendly, reliable, and low-cost air travel.”

And Kellogg’s: “Nourishing families so they can flourish and thrive”

The only modifications I’d make to these is to start the Southwest purpose with a gerund (ending in ‘ing’) rather than ‘to do something’.  That is, to say ‘connecting People to…’, not ‘to connect People to’.

Why?

Well, our brains work in pictures, not words.  For example, if I asked you how many windows are in your home, how would you get your answer?  You’d visualize it and walk through your home.

Well, if you say ‘to connect’, your brain makes a still picture to represent the words.  If you say ‘connecting’, you create a movie in your mind’s eye, and a movie is far more compelling than a simple picture.

Similarly, when I work with my clients on connecting with their inner core purpose on a personal level, I it usually comes down to a couple of words, and I challenge my clients to transform the first word into a gerund.  Thus, instead of saying that their purpose is ‘to help others’ or ‘to make connections’ or ‘to heal conflict’, I challenge them to play with ‘helping others’, ‘making connections’ or ‘healing conflict’.

In over a quarter of a century of doing this work, every single person has found the gerund version much more compelling.  And at its heart, it’s not the words that are important – it’s the connection to the inner feeling of purpose. The words are simply the label – or the key to unlock all of that.

The simple ingredient to success that most miss

Whether you’re talking about your business or your personal life, there’s one common ingredient to success most people miss. Everyone focuses on what they do – not on the why.

How many organizations have mission statements that are perfectly suited to put an insomniac to sleep? “We strive to be a world class provider of (insert business here) pursuing excellence and always putting our people and customers first” Yawn.

How many of you focus on goals or your next career move and have to work like crazy to motivate yourself and drive yourself to get everything done to accomplish that, burning out any passion or joy along the journey?

Both of those approaches, whether corporate or personal, are focused on what you do, not why. What you do has no passion, no drive, no motivation in and of itself. That’s why you have to motivate yourself or your team or your organization.

So how do you do anything differently? Well here’s a revolutionary thought. What if you started with your motivation, your raison d’etre, and then drawing your goals from there so your motivation, and the drive of your team in an organization are implicitly built in to whatever situation arises?

It sounds pretty radical, but if you look at the organizations that are most successful, they are the ones that focus on their purpose first, not on what they do. Same with people. The ones who consistently live fuller and more meaningful lives are those who live on-purpose.

Purpose is not just about you, whether you’re talking about yourself or your organization – it’s about how you make a difference in the world. That’s something that can set you on fire for your personal purpose. It’s also something that can set everyone in your organization alight when you’re talking about organizational purpose.

Purpose is not mission or vision. As detailed in this HBR article, purpose exists to inspire your staff to do good work for you, find a way to express the organization’s impact on the lives of customers, clients, students, patients — whomever you’re trying to serve. Make them feel it.

The evolution of mission into more purpose-ful organizations is illustrated in this article, showing how organizations transformed their business by focusing on helping first, and selling second. Mission statements are usually very insular, looking inward, and have the motivational power of going for a root canal. Purpose statements are simple (in plain English, not vision-speak) and focus on why you do what you do.

In a similar way, personal purpose needs to be a simple statement that gets to the why of all of your life, not just your work.

The Journey to YEAH!

Welcome to the blog for From “meh” to YEAH!  This has actually been 25 years in the making.

2017 is the 25th anniversary for Chrysalis Strategies, and for 25 years I’ve worked to describe and bring together the work we do both for organizations and for individuals. And it was just a couple of weeks ago that I had the breakthrough that really brought it all together.

One of my favourite articles is called “F*ck Yes or No” by Mark Manson.  It’s about relationships, but I think it’s relevant to all of life.  In this article, Manson says that if you’re in a relationship that’s kind of waffling, where you don’t know where it’s going or how you (or the other person) feels, then you should just leave it.  Basically, if you don’t have a “F*ck, Yeah!” that you want to be in that relationship (and if your partner doesn’t have that either), then there’s no point.

In this article he refers to another post by Derek Sivers, called No “yes.” Either “HELL YEAH!” or “no” where Sivers makes the same argument for work.

One of the things that sets our work at Chrysalis apart is that it comes from purpose.  Yes, we do strategic planning for organizations, yes we help people strategically plan their own lives, and yes we create engaging, powerful meetings that produce results, but all of it starts from purpose.

What’s the core inner sense of purpose for an individual, and what’s the shared purpose for an organization or a meeting or conference?  From that point what you do is shaped by the purpose building the motivation in. Why waste time motivating yourself after the fact?

The challenge for most people and organizations is that they have no clear sense of purpose, no focus, no true north, so they run desperately from deadline to commitment, juggling more than they can truly handle.  At worst, these lives and workplaces are stressful and exhausting and dis-engaging. At best they’re “meh” with occasional times of joy and fun.

By starting with purpose, by starting with the why, and by engaging all key players in organizational settings (and addressing all areas of your life personally), we build the motivation in, so your passion, your engagement, your focus are built in to produce lasting results – a Hell, Yeah! (or F*ck, Yeah! if you’d rather)

That was the blinding flash of the obvious that came to me a couple of weeks ago – what we do, in all our work with organizations, with individuals, with meetings is help you go from “meh” to YEAH!

And that only took 25 years.  🙂

This blog will focus on this them, bringing you tools to cut down the “meh” and get a little more YEAH! in your lives and in your workplaces.  I’m also launching a new online show that will provide some key tips as well as interviews with people who’ve gone from “meh” to YEAH! to find out how they were able to make that happen so we can all do it better.  These shows will be included in blog posting here, so if you subscribe now, you’ll get access to it all right here.

Join me on the journey to YEAH!